Lady Liberty how we have betrayed her and a call to action

Lady Liberty –  She stands proudly at the entrance to our shores. Loudly proclaiming for all to hear

“Give me your tired, your poor, your huddled masses yearning to breathe free, the wretched refuse of your teeming shore. Send these, the homeless, tempest-tossed to me, I lift my lamp beside the golden door!”

This week we betrayed her as we did in 1939 when we closed our doors to jewish refugees resulting in their deaths in Hitlers Concentration Camps.

The fear mongering of this administration is abhorrent. If we want to conduct extreme vetting on those who are at most risk to our safety we would be signing orders to vet white American Citizen males 18-28.

As Nikki Haley threatened at the UN this week that they are “taking names” of those in UN who don’t have their backs”

We are taking names! Of all Senators and Congressman who stay silent while White House puts in place bans on our rights, our religious freedoms, on refugees.

We are taking names on Corporations who stand silent. Uber saw that quickly last night when they did not stand with the strike of NYC taxi.

This is not the time for cowardice. Our ancestors, our grandparents, the women before us fought, sacrificed, gave their lives for our freedom.

We owe it to them and to our children and grandchildren now to stand together to protect the rights those before us fought to defend.

This is a crisis of conscience. Any little thing, calling your Congressional representative, sending an email a tweet. Sharing the call to action on your social media.  We all have busy lives…but there are many things you can do that take minimal time.  I promise you the pride you will feel afterward is fabulous.

Here are links with ideas on how you can help:

https://www.womensmarch.com/100/

https://www.thenation.com/article/how-to-fight-trumps-racist-immigration-policies/

Call on Corporate America to speak up as several Ceo’s already have

http://abcnews.go.com/Politics/tech-business-leaders-trumps-travel-ban-discriminatory-vow/story?id=45120903

It’s our turn to honor Lady Liberty’s promise and those who fought before us to pick up the mantle.

Georgia T

 

embracing change………..

Yesterday someone posted on Facebook 10 Life Changing Tips inspired by Deepak Chopra.

One that in particular resonated with me was tip #3 Embrace the Unknown

“Even when you think you have your life all mapped out, things happen that shape your destiny in ways you might never have imagined.”

“Things” happen to all of us….marriages, divorces, births, deaths, illness,aging, financial wins and losses, moves and job changes.

Some “things” by our own doing….the little decisions we make each day that can at times completely redirect the path of our lives.

Do you ever wonder what would have happened if you took that other job…dated that other man….went to that other school…took the other side of the fork in the road?

The unknown at times can feel like the monster under the bed. As I look back on my own journey and the twists and turns. I could not have imagined the depth of experience that facing the unknown gave me.

I have always been of the mindset that at times in life you just have to “hold your nose” and jump in….having faith that wherever it takes me I’ll be ok.

A new unknown transition is beginning for me. I am both nervous and excited. What is on the other side of this unknown twist in the road…I don’t know…but I am embracing it and waiting to see that which I have not yet imagined.

Ladies…how do you embrace change? How have the twists in your life map shaped your destiny?

Georgia T

welcome to the barn ladies…..

This week Georgia state Republican Rep Terry England  debated over House Bill 954. He said that his experience with pigs and cows and chickens has convinced him that women should be forced to deliver any babies after 20 weeks of pregnancy even if the baby is not expected to live.

“Life gives us many experiences,” he explained. “I’ve had the experience of delivering calves, dead and alive — delivering pigs, dead and alive. … It breaks our hearts to see those animals not make it.”

Now I personally do not agree with abortions that late in pregnancy…however in cases where the fetus is not expected to live or where a twin fetus or mom health and life are at risk then that is a different story. I don’t like blanket rules that have no common sense exceptions. And I sure as heck don’t believe in a lot of men making decisions about women.

That being said and to my point of men making decisions about women. How far back are we being pushed when we are being compared to barnyard animals?

There are wonderful supportive men out there that stand beside us but there is a large contingent of misogynists that seem laser focused on demeaning and degrading us and pushing our rights back decades.

Imagine the uproar if a committee of women decided a bill needed to be introduced to treat men like barnyard animals.

House bill xxx ….. Castration of male cattle is a common practice around the world. The main reasons calves are castrated are to reduce meat toughness, remove aggressive behavior and high muscle pH (“dark cutters”)

 

Georgia T

 

 

a new demand for womens rights…..

Tonight on NBC Nightly news they talked about the contraception issue. 39 states have proposals on deck to limit coverage of birth control. Some states requiring a woman to prove to an employer that she needs birth control for medical reasons and not contraception.

We need to use our voices now…loudly and consistently that we will NOT move backwards. That the misogyny that is alive and well will not win. Whether it is Rush Limbaugh or Bill Maher we must swiftly use our voices to stop the words of female degradation that men like them use to demean us.  We will accept nothing less than equal. That as women we will stand together with the men that support us and fight against those who strive to take us back decades. For ourselves, for our daughters, for those who have fought before us…we will use our voices in unison to stop the attack on our rights, our health, our safety.

Tanya L Domi  is an Adjunct Assistant Professor of International and Public Affairs at Columbia University who teaches about human rights in Eurasia and is a Harriman Institute affiliated faculty member.

In her article linked here she writes about the current War on Women and how it demands a new Women’s Rights Agenda for America. I encourage all women and the men who stand beside us and support us to read this article and add your voice to the cause.

http://thenewcivilrightsmovement.com/the-gop-war-on-women-demands-a-new-womens-rights-agenda-for-america/politics/2012/03/19/36724

Georgia T

 

 

rush rush…our voices drowned our yours………

Did you feel the world axle shift? That was Rush Limbaugh issuing an apology for his outrageous comments directed at Sandra Fluke.

The power of your voices had the arrogant Rush Limbaugh apologizing. The onslaught of protests to the sponsors of his show had  advertisers pulling out of  his radio show.

His apology on his website reads :

“For over 20 years, I have illustrated the absurd with absurdity, three hours a day, five days a week. In this instance, I chose the wrong words in my analogy of the situation. I did not mean a personal attack on Ms. Fluke. My choice of words was not the best, and in the attempt to be humorous, I created a national stir. I sincerely apologize to Ms. Fluke for the insulting word choices.”

Does not strike me as a sincere apology but just a response instruction from his bosses and sponsors.

He absolutely meant a personal attack on Sandra Fluke. Even going as far as saying he wanted her to post video when she has sex on the internet for him to watch.

But what I want to speak to here is not a man that is not worth a moment of our precious lives…but the pride I feel in the power of our voices joined together. Social media has given us as never before a path to make quick impact when there are those who try to silence our voices and/or cross the bounds  as Rush did on his show.

We have accomplished much as women to gain our equal rights in this Country. But we have far yet to go.  And I can not say it better on this issue than Sandra Fluke when she said;

“What has been made clear, is that women will not be silenced on this issue, and neither will the men who support them.”

Your voice our voices together  have the power to make great change.

It’s a good day.

Georgia T

embraceyourvoice.com

 

 

 

 

 


Fear…let’s dance!

Today I watched Oprah’s Next Chapter program. This week she was with Tony Robbins and his Unleash the Power event in Los Angeles. There were many things that struck me but one I want to talk about today is Fear.

Did you just feel the hairs on the back of your arm stand up? Interesting the power that even that word can have in our lives. When you read that word what instantly came to your mind?

No one escapes fear…we all have something based on our life experiences. Fear of a spider or flying…fear of success or love…fear of not belonging….or disappointing. Fear when in control negatively impacts the path of our lives.

Tony Robbins said resisting or ignoring our fears gives it control. But acknowledging the fear and moving forward anyway we hold onto the power and control.  It’s a choice. That is the metaphor of his Firewalk .

We have the power to change our story. Each day we are given the opportunity to write our first new chapter.  We have the power to unleash our own voices. As Tony Robbins says; ” Let fear be your counselor not your jailer”.

Dance with your fear…acknowledge it…feel it…and choose to move forward anyway.

Are you ready?!!

Georgia T

a voice that will never be forgotten……

I stood in my yard yesterday afternoon watching a formation of helicopters flying overhead wondering what was up. Later I realized they must have been on their way to the Beverly Hilton Hotel where Whitney Houston had been found dead.

Whitney Houston’s voice was my partner in many events and fantasies during the 80’s. I danced to her in clubs and alone in my house. Played her as background music during romantic evenings and who didn’t fantasize about having that big beautiful voice.

Whitney Houston was blessed with many gifts. Born to a Grammy winning mother it gave her an inside connection to start her music career. She was blessed with physical beauty. She had one of the most beautiful powerful voices the world has known. She was given wealth and a large group of friends who loved her. Yet with all those gifts it did not protect her from her own personal demons. All those gifts did not protect her from issues of self worth.

She had always carried herself with such grace and poise. The image of a “good girl”. Until seemingly the day she met Bobby Brown. I wondered how could someone who should have been with the likes of a Sidney Poitier or Denzel Washington  choose to step down so far from what she truly deserved.

This woman with the beautiful voice it seemed lost her voice in her personal life. We do not know what hurts her heart held that let her fall prey to addiction and  feelings that she did not deserve better in love than what she chose.  Young people pushed into celebrity have the pressure of expectations bigger than their age and maturity can always manage.

A reminder  that women from all  walk’s of life can struggle to find and keep their voice. That no one is immune to hurt’s that scar our hearts. We must with each other be there to lend our strength of voice when needed and ask for it when we need it ourselves.

I will remember and honor Whitney for the beautiful music her voice and talent  provided the world and for the memories in my life her songs will always bring back.

Rest in Peace Whitney…….and Thank you.

Georgia T

 

make the family you want……..

How do you sort through the maze of issue’s when trauma in a family comes from a family member. Often times family members want to sweep the issues under the rug. It is very difficult to deal with the ripple effect. Forgiveness is important but does that mean you have to share a Holiday dinner?  Forgiveness does not mean condoning. Forgiveness is something done internally for our own healing and does not include the need to rebuild a relationship that is toxic. Many times victims are re-victimized by having to put on a happy face and share family events.

Family members can at times make the victim feel selfish by not “getting over” the trauma and blame the victim for perpetuating the issue. It is understandable how we want to make a “picture” of the family we want which may not match the family we have. It may be human nature to crave the Leave it to Beaver family.

To find healing forgiveness and internal peace may mean a need for separation from the people who caused the hurt.  Remove yourself from what causes chaos and turmoil in your life. We can’t control others but we can control our own lives and actions. Living a healing healthy life to me means surrounding  yourself with healthy functional people.

Someone once said to me that what I wanted was not the issue but that I was trying to make it with the wrong puzzle pieces. Family is not necessarily decided by DNA but by the people in your life whom give you the most feeling of family.

Make the family that’s right for you…….

 

Georgia T

 

 

our collective gasp…….

Yesterday we had a collective gasp at the not guilty verdict in the death of Caylee Anthony. Another assault on a young female child left unpunished. I understand the “reasonable doubt” that kept the jury from convicting. How 400 pieces of evidence could be reviewed and discussed in only 11 hours confounds me. But it is what it is……
Even with a conviction we could never wrap our minds around what kind of human being kills a child. Or if a human mistake caused a death…what kind of human being could dump their body in the swamp like a piece of garbage.
And for Casey…what happened to her that she could become so callous that however her child went missing, by her hand or not, could not stop partying long enough for it to matter. This is obviously a very damaged young woman. At the moment probably the most hated woman in the world. I don’t imagine she will find life in the world very appealing for a long time.
If she did kill her child…or just not care enough that someone else had…alone in her heart she has to live with that forever. That may be worse than any jail cell would ever provide.
Here is a young woman from a seemingly normal suburban family who grew up extremely dysfunctional. And a small child paid the price.
Our voices as women must always call out to fight for those who can’t fight for themselves. As we left our porchlights on last night in rememberance of Caylee processing this sadness we can honor her by using your voice to continue the fight to stand up for females abused around the Globe.

Georgia T

the world did not end but ….

I had lots of fun yesterday with the whole “world is ending at 6pm” thing.  At 5:57 pm on my FB page  I said I had my cocktail in hand..travel snack packed..and mileage card ready hoping to upgrade my seat on the ride to the “other side.”

While many of us poked fun and had a big giggle and a few “end of the world” parties were happening….there were others who had sold all they had because they really believed the world would end and they would be swept up in rapture to the other side.

I wondered how any logical person could be so wholly swept up into such silliness. How must they feel today when they are still here after putting their future at risk.

Can’t say I have an answer but it makes me think about how gullible I have been at times. how could fooled by that man I dated….? when I look back now at times in my life that I was fooled by someone… I just feel stupid because  it is so obvious he was full of it.

I think as women we live so much in hope…and as mothers we need to …always have the hope of the future in sight for our children…..some of us marry men for their potential rather than who they already are….we believe they just need a good woman…that’s right a bit of time with me and whoila…fixed!

Don’t get me wrong…believing is good…and many of us grow fully into our potential…and I personally strongly follow the….”what you believe you create credo.”

It’s the signs along the way we must listen to …the hairs that go up on the back of our neck…that gut feeling that there might be a fork in his tongue…and more than all…..have a deep unwavering belief in OURSELVES….  because with that….the decisions will be clearer.

Embrace YOU…

 

Georgia T