This story always cracks me up…..time for a revisit .
First, we survived being born to mothers who smoked and/or drank while they were pregnant.
They took aspirin, ate blue cheese dressing, tuna from a can, and didn’t get tested for diabetes.
Then after that trauma, we were put to sleep on our tummies in baby cribs covered with brightly colored lead-based paints.
We had no child-proof lids on medicine bottles, doors or cabinets and when we rode our bikes, we had no helmets, not to mention, the risks we took hitchhiking.
As infants & children, we would ride in cars with no car seats, booster seats, seat belts or air bags.
Riding in the back of a pick up on a warm day was always a special treat. We drank water from the garden hose and NOT from a bottle. Continue reading “How Boomers survived childhood….”
I love working out. You wouldn’t know that by the lack of consistency in my execution. But when I do and my hour is finished…I’m one smiling proud gal. It’s how easily I get distracted from getting to that hour that’s my issue. I’ve complained to gyms over the years that those contracts they make us sign should come with a “we will drag your butt here kicking and screaming if necessary” clause.
I hate those celebrity pics that show them losing 45 lbs of baby weight and having hard as rock bodies seemingly a day after giving birth…they don’t fool me. Other than the photo touch-up people ,they have trainers who show up at their house and scream at them like Jillian on the Biggest Loser. Torturing them through hours of workouts. I can just hear the trainer yelling…”get down there and give me 50 more push-ups…fix that fat belly or you will be relegated to the D list of celebrities along with Kathy Griffin.” If only you could order my own Jillian type trainer from Amazon at less than the cost of my mortgage. Continue reading “My workout commitment phobia…….”
I like new years..well except for the getting one year older part. God I remember when all I wanted was to get older. I always wondered if it was a bad thing to pray to get older. Seemed selfish. But there I was with rosary in hand praying for my period to start or to hurry up and get to 16 then to 18… Oh how times change… now I am in no hurry to add another number to my age. Continue reading “Another year…”
Happy New Year Ladies…
I’m all about positive outlooks for 2013 . I don’t make resolutions…they last as long as the New Years toast. But I am about a vision for my future. Am I a better me…what am I learning each day. I was the oldest female in my family with 4 siblings that were several years younger. My role in the family was cemented..I was the caretaker. I was the one out of the 6 of us who cared for my parents. What that family role made me was someone who thought she should and could fix everyone and everything.
The best course I ever took was Steven Covey’s 7 Habits. His “circle of influence” was one of my life’s best lessons. To recognize and more importantly accept what I could influence and where that circle ended was huge for me. Letting go and letting be….not needing to control all….fix all….was freeing to me. It meant alot of tongue biting and believe me in the years since it is still a battle I fight….but each time I “let go and let god”….is a win. And what pressure that removes when you don’t feel like it is your job to solve all.
There is a Brandi Carlisle song called The Story…..I love the lyrics. On the days that my crows feet or the changing jawline especially annoy me…I sing these lines that remind me that each lesson..each year…each heartache and triumph led me to here…to whom I am and that I am living the vision of where I am going…and who I want to continue to grow to be with each passing year. Are you living your vision?
“All of these lines across my face
Tell you the story of who I am
So many stories of where I’ve been
And how I got to where I am” Brandi Carlisle
I moved to an entirely new area a couple months ago. In any future moves I will pack myself. Packers love to use a lot of boxes and a lot or packing paper. I found candles wrapped in 4 sheets of packing paper. It took longer to unpack all that than it would have for me to do the packing myself and I would have saved like 50 trees. It would have been worse if I was going room from room scolding them on overusing paper and boxes.
Although I do enjoy discovering new places there are some things about moving to a new location that are just not on my list of favorite things. Continue reading “moving like a root canal without the Novocaine……”
Yesterday someone posted on Facebook 10 Life Changing Tips inspired by Deepak Chopra.
One that in particular resonated with me was tip #3 Embrace the Unknown
“Even when you think you have your life all mapped out, things happen that shape your destiny in ways you might never have imagined.”
“Things” happen to all of us….marriages, divorces, births, deaths, illness,aging, financial wins and losses, moves and job changes.
Some “things” by our own doing….the little decisions we make each day that can at times completely redirect the path of our lives.
Do you ever wonder what would have happened if you took that other job…dated that other man….went to that other school…took the other side of the fork in the road?
The unknown at times can feel like the monster under the bed. As I look back on my own journey and the twists and turns. I could not have imagined the depth of experience that facing the unknown gave me.
I have always been of the mindset that at times in life you just have to “hold your nose” and jump in….having faith that wherever it takes me I’ll be ok.
A new unknown transition is beginning for me. I am both nervous and excited. What is on the other side of this unknown twist in the road…I don’t know…but I am embracing it and waiting to see that which I have not yet imagined.
Ladies…how do you embrace change? How have the twists in your life map shaped your destiny?
This week Georgia state Republican Rep Terry England debated over House Bill 954. He said that his experience with pigs and cows and chickens has convinced him that women should be forced to deliver any babies after 20 weeks of pregnancy even if the baby is not expected to live.
“Life gives us many experiences,” he explained. “I’ve had the experience of delivering calves, dead and alive — delivering pigs, dead and alive. … It breaks our hearts to see those animals not make it.”
Now I personally do not agree with abortions that late in pregnancy…however in cases where the fetus is not expected to live or where a twin fetus or mom health and life are at risk then that is a different story. I don’t like blanket rules that have no common sense exceptions. And I sure as heck don’t believe in a lot of men making decisions about women.
That being said and to my point of men making decisions about women. How far back are we being pushed when we are being compared to barnyard animals?
There are wonderful supportive men out there that stand beside us but there is a large contingent of misogynists that seem laser focused on demeaning and degrading us and pushing our rights back decades.
Imagine the uproar if a committee of women decided a bill needed to be introduced to treat men like barnyard animals.
House bill xxx ….. Castration of male cattle is a common practice around the world. The main reasons calves are castrated are to reduce meat toughness, remove aggressive behavior and high muscle pH (“dark cutters”)
Tonight on NBC Nightly news they talked about the contraception issue. 39 states have proposals on deck to limit coverage of birth control. Some states requiring a woman to prove to an employer that she needs birth control for medical reasons and not contraception.
We need to use our voices now…loudly and consistently that we will NOT move backwards. That the misogyny that is alive and well will not win. Whether it is Rush Limbaugh or Bill Maher we must swiftly use our voices to stop the words of female degradation that men like them use to demean us. We will accept nothing less than equal. That as women we will stand together with the men that support us and fight against those who strive to take us back decades. For ourselves, for our daughters, for those who have fought before us…we will use our voices in unison to stop the attack on our rights, our health, our safety.
Tanya L Domi is an Adjunct Assistant Professor of International and Public Affairs at Columbia University who teaches about human rights in Eurasia and is a Harriman Institute affiliated faculty member.
In her article linked here she writes about the current War on Women and how it demands a new Women’s Rights Agenda for America. I encourage all women and the men who stand beside us and support us to read this article and add your voice to the cause.
Did you feel the world axle shift? That was Rush Limbaugh issuing an apology for his outrageous comments directed at Sandra Fluke.
The power of your voices had the arrogant Rush Limbaugh apologizing. The onslaught of protests to the sponsors of his show had advertisers pulling out of his radio show.
His apology on his website reads :
“For over 20 years, I have illustrated the absurd with absurdity, three hours a day, five days a week. In this instance, I chose the wrong words in my analogy of the situation. I did not mean a personal attack on Ms. Fluke. My choice of words was not the best, and in the attempt to be humorous, I created a national stir. I sincerely apologize to Ms. Fluke for the insulting word choices.”
Does not strike me as a sincere apology but just a response instruction from his bosses and sponsors.
He absolutely meant a personal attack on Sandra Fluke. Even going as far as saying he wanted her to post video when she has sex on the internet for him to watch.
But what I want to speak to here is not a man that is not worth a moment of our precious lives…but the pride I feel in the power of our voices joined together. Social media has given us as never before a path to make quick impact when there are those who try to silence our voices and/or cross the bounds as Rush did on his show.
We have accomplished much as women to gain our equal rights in this Country. But we have far yet to go. And I can not say it better on this issue than Sandra Fluke when she said;
“What has been made clear, is that women will not be silenced on this issue, and neither will the men who support them.”
Your voice our voices together have the power to make great change.
It’s a good day.
Today I watched Oprah’s Next Chapter program. This week she was with Tony Robbins and his Unleash the Power event in Los Angeles. There were many things that struck me but one I want to talk about today is Fear.
Did you just feel the hairs on the back of your arm stand up? Interesting the power that even that word can have in our lives. When you read that word what instantly came to your mind?
No one escapes fear…we all have something based on our life experiences. Fear of a spider or flying…fear of success or love…fear of not belonging….or disappointing. Fear when in control negatively impacts the path of our lives.
Tony Robbins said resisting or ignoring our fears gives it control. But acknowledging the fear and moving forward anyway we hold onto the power and control. It’s a choice. That is the metaphor of his Firewalk .
We have the power to change our story. Each day we are given the opportunity to write our first new chapter. We have the power to unleash our own voices. As Tony Robbins says; ” Let fear be your counselor not your jailer”.
Dance with your fear…acknowledge it…feel it…and choose to move forward anyway.
Are you ready?!!