Recently a friend said to me…”Georgia sometimes you need to stop and watch a sunset”.
It seems like days just whirl by. Laptop is opened to warm up while I go to pour my coffee at 6:30am . Thus starts a day full of a flurry of activity. Deadlines to keep…meetings to attend…laundry to do….oh and somewhere in there is at least one meal other than the protein bar I call breakfast.
One day this past week though his words hung in my mind. So a just before sunset I closed up the computer, threw on a sundress, grabbed a towel and drove to the beach. Once I was there I could not believe how seldom I stop and give myself a moment to just BE.
It wasn’t just the beauty of the sunset or the sounds of the ocean…but the beauty to just breathe it all in and be present in the moment. That 45 minutes I gave myself to just stop. Why is it that we get so lost in all the stuff we have to do we forget the biggest thing we need to do is give ourselves time …just our own time…
In an article written by Susan Steiner she relates what a palliative care nurse in Australia found in treating dying patients as their top 5 regrets. The number one regret was: I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realize that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honored even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realize until they no longer have it.”
In fulfilling the expectations of our roles in work, marriage, motherhood, family, friends, we miss fulfilling ourselves.We know- don’t we= inside our hearts- that the more we live a life true to ourselves the more we can be a better parent and wife and friend. Yet so many of us …including me…don’t.
I haven’t quite figured out how to make sure I stop and watch a sunset more often. But I’m determined to finding a way.